Spring is a time for opening and letting go, allowing all that is meant for your to come pouring in. This excerpt from Deepak Chopra's work titled "The Path to Love" graciously enables us to start this process:
How to let go.
In overwhelmingly emotional or difficult situations, no one lets go. You are not superhuman; when anger, fear, doubt, and stubbornness are so powerful that you have no choice but to give in to them, realize that you are having an extreme reaction. Say to yourself 'I'm really holding on, but this experience isn't me. It's just and experience that's going to pass, and when it does I'll let it go.' Even in the most extreme situations, you can be willing to let go, which is a big step in itself.
Most of the time, though, you are not under extreme duress, and the process of letting go can begin. Since letting go is a deeply personal choice, you are going to have to be your own teacher. The process takes place on every level--physical, mental, and emotional--where energy can be stuck or held, and no two people have exactly the same issues. You may feel comfortable with a lot more physical release than I do; I may feel comfortable with a lot more emotional release than you do. Finding the right balance is important.
Letting go physically.
Letting go physically is a matter of stress release. Under stress your body tenses and contracts; breathing gets ragged and shallow; homonal balances switch from their normal levels to the hypervigilant state of fight or flight. You cannot cope with all of this at once. In the overall plan taking part in a stress management program is a long-term commitment you should make, whether through meditation, yoga or countless other options. Stress is ongoing; therefore reducing stress needs to be ongoing.
In the short run letting go of stress involves relaxing. Take deep measured breaths, letting the breath go free on the exhale. Lie down if you can and allow release to take place for as long as it needs to.
Signs of a good release are yawning, sighing, silent sobs, coughing, sneezing, and feeling sleepy. Let your body do any or all of these.
Other means of physical release besides breathing include laughing, screaming, shouting, taking a walk, swimming, talking a long bath, dancing, doing aerobics [massage]. Shaking out the stress does in fact work, at least partially. The intention here is to let your body release what is wants to. Your body doesn't like holding on to stress; it does so essentially at the urging of the mind. Taking your mind off the situation and letting your body release its excess energies is a valuable step.
Under really extreme stress, walk away from the situation--tell anyone else who is involved that your need to be alone for a while to get your bearings. Offer reassurance that you will be back, and if the other person puts pressure on you to stay, give yourself permission to do what you need to do for your own well being.
Patiently work with your reactions and stress levels through breathing practices, meditation, yoga, mindfulness, and time spent in solitude. Call or text for an appointment to begin letting go at Anjali Massage & Integrative Bodywork.